Posted by: wellness training services | September 25, 2012

Taking A Step – Assertive Skills and Your Career: Part 2

Taking A Step – Assertive Skills and Your Career

Self understanding

An understanding of our personality preferences can assist us in developing a work style that best supports our natural tendencies, marshals our talents and facilitates our sharing them with others. Which preference is more like you?

  • Mental preference — the Dreamer: The dreamer provides us with our life’s purpose. When we feel that life is a bit rough, the dreamer pulls us through. The dreamer quality in us is all-seeing and unobstructed by reality or practical imitations. Standing above it all, the dreamer is free to create new things, new ideas and innovations.
  • Social preference — the Realist: The Realist is that part of us that actively works through obstacles to overcome the barriers to achieving the dream. Through an interactive process the realist makes every obstacle an action item as it strives to drive the dream forward.
  • Social preference — The Catalyst: The Catalyst is that part of us that makes connections with others. The catalyst moves in and out of the different elements with ease as it reacts and begins to shape the ideas of the dreamer and the actions of the realist. The catalyst part of us helps us reflect and assimilate our experiences.
  • Physical preference — The Critic: The Critic is that part of us that lets us know what obstacles are blocking us from dream achievement. The critic in us understands the filters and obstacles required to achieve the dream as it strives to produce and manifest the idea.

Willingness to stay in problem-solving mode

Since we all are different in how we perceive and decide about the world around us, dealing with difficult situations can cause us discomfort especially when we have to confront others. Confrontation generally implies that there is some discomfort or apprehension about the process of communication. It suggests that we perceive that we have something either “hard” for us to say or “hard” for us to hear. If the tension of opposite preferences is the very essence of life itself and without tension there would be no energy and consequently no mature personality growth, then the question has to be asked, “How can we use this push and pull of opposites to create a win-win solution for dealing with differences?”

When we find it difficult to be assertive and to stand up for our ideas or if we are too aggressive in expressing our ideas, assertiveness training can provide the tools and insights for turning our heads toward a problem-solving solution. To maintain assertive behaviours requires that we are willing to focus objectively on the problem by stating both the facts as well as how the problem is affecting us. Once stated, we need to request help from the other person involved in how they think we can resolve the tension of opposing views. We can then make a plan and follow up with each other until the problem is resolved.

What are your thoughts on assertiveness and your workplace patterns?  Do you alter, avoid, or accommodate difficult situations?

Stay awake, aware, and alert and strive to lead a well-tempered life – a life that possesses both hardiness and flexibility.  The good news is that once you are awake, it’s hard to go to sleep again, but if you do, do it on purpose and prepare yourself for the consequences.












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